Child Abuse

Sex is an animal instinct commingled in human psyche as a pleasure to satisfy it to its fill. It is universally believed that sexual temptations are part of a normal human being and those who lack it are insane. Therefore, it is considerable approach that with time all humans whether male or female get into it no matter how? So, there should be proper brought up of every human mind before it gets involved in any such activity to make him/her reach it properly.

          Even after accepting the above reality, every edge of globe is facing incidents relating to child abuse, although sexual activities have become an open market product. Psychiatrists believe that those who abuse children are mentally sick people and for the reasons commit such inhuman acts. Children are very much spited when abused that cause them much damage internally. But the question is why does people perpetrate this act?

          Many might see the apparent damages child abuse make but there are hidden sever effects that damages the whole personality of the child. Boys and girls get different effect from abuse. The intensity of effects depends on the magnitude and the way with which the child is abused, nature of the child and its age. Different children face abuse of various levels that affect them in its own way.

          Some people abuse children only mentally by pulling them towards itself either through positive attractions or negative persuasion. Just for the purpose to make the child a follower for any sort of mental satisfaction of the abuser could be the reason. Some people want to be the focus of one or more children so they abuse them for getting into children’s hearts. There could be several good or bad reasons why such person wants to get among children? While some get close to children by threatening and terrifying them so that they follow the abuser without protest.

Hollywood film, “when a stranger calls” also justify the above argument as the girl victimized in the film was to be abused physically, although she was rescued before rape but the threat and fear bring about terribly influenced her psyche. A case-study in Pakistan was also studied where a man, uncle of the little girl abused her. The man was childless even after two marriages and use to love kids a lot but the girl was very sensitive, she got mentally insecure due to the so called love as the man was intense in it. There wasn’t any physical assault or misuse but the passion of the man fatigued his niece.

          There are many cases when children are abused physically. Some elders, including male and females, use children sexually just for fun, for having young sexual appeals or due to sick intentions. No concern what the ground could be, but leads to long-term disabilities to individuals abused and society; for the curse spreads the disease of child abuse like pestilent stricken leaves. It gives birth to more like it that increases the number of infects depending on the abuser and the abused one.

          Boys usually are found stronger and build negative mentality when abused. They more of accept it with time and come up with it when they themselves grow up as adults. Girls contrarily get spoiled, no matter physically or mentally. But both genders do infuse the experience in its spirit that remain a part of them throughout their lives and plays it part time to time. For child abuse sometime increases aggression, vulgarity, violence and sexual appeals to excess. Whereas, it can also create vacuum in a personality, inflicting manethropic approach, loss of confidence and in sever condition developing split personality disorders.

          Abuse experience among children often make them regret it as their own demerit so children even after growing up happened to be reluctant in sharing such experiences. This haunts and insecure them lifetime as they feel ashamed.

Nancy Friday in his book “My Secret Garden- women sexual fantasies” not only discussed sexual approach of females but also discuss in details the trend of child abuse in America and its effects in molding usual and especially sexual approach of females. And her work has clearly revealed the bad out comings of many sexually abused cases. Like world around, sexual abuse cases are also commonly observed in Pakistan in almost all areas and to both genders equally.

          Physical abuse in child hood definitely shapes the normal mentally into extremist. It engages the growth into abusive trend and hence the adult it produces holds shortcomings in its acts in one way or the other. Psychological effect of child abuse could also be deteriorating with growth as in cases; he/she could simply be disjoining the humans or resulting in maltreatment towards them. Sensitive minds, when are abused could become addicted towards sex and may start abusing others for fulfilling their own temptations.

          Frustration that fosters from distracted soul also supports nascence of child abuse. It seems like the root-factor in the highly increase of child abuse. People get rid of their frustrations with sex no matter with whom. The discrimination among adult and child sex activity has been diminished that is also proved from the porn sites that involves young ones also. Open media is also responsible as children themselves are very much exposed to sexual contents. Counseling is the only best solution to guide and protect children to control this malady.